Monday, April 28, 2008

Our wedding at Turtle Bay

It is our last day in Hawaii! Our photographer gave us this slideshow yesterday. There are a few photos that I'd rather do without (like me crying! Or me pointing at The Man and laughing!) Jon also pointed out that there are A LOT of photos of me, definitely more than him. Hehehe. But I guess all photographers do that, right? Take a lot of the bride and not so much of the groom. Anyway, we have TONS of photos that we need to go through once we get home. We really liked our photographer and can't wait to see the album. And the video! So here is a very small peek of our wedding day.

Saturday, April 12, 2008

And away we go!

Leaving you with just a small portion of our wedding music. The Man and I chose these songs together ... he was actually interested in giving his input and I was actually happy to have it!

Introduction of Groom & Groom's mother/Best Man & Matron of Honor
E Ku'u Morning Dew by Israel Kamakawiwo'ole
The Man chose this song because he loves this artist's music. I do, too.

Processional - Bride & parents
White Sandy Beach by Israel Kamakawiwo'ole
We chose this song because Jon instantly fell in love with it when he heard it for the first time. And we both love the beach ... it's one of our favorite places to be together. We are so happy to be getting married by the ocean.

Recessional
Somewhere Over the Rainbow/ What a Wonderful World by Israel Kamakawiwo'ole
I love this song so much - ever since I saw the most beautiful hula choreographed to it in San Francisco. It took a little convincing for The Man to OK it. He thinks it's played out (we've heard it at two other weddings) and it's often used for commercials, as well. But I adore it so The Man gave in :)

Signing of wedding certificate/ license
The Road That Never Ends by Keali'i Reichel
I've also seen a beautiful hula danced to this song. The lyrics just seem perfect for when we seal the deal ;) Unfortunately, it is not on Project Playlist.

Wedding Video
For Once in My Life by Stevie Wonder
Our videographer asked us to choose three songs for our wedding video. In addition to White Sandy Beach, Somewhere Over the Rainbow/ What a Wonderful World, we also chose this song because we love Stevie Wonder and the lyrics to For Once in my Life. We almost chose Overjoyed but The Man said it might make the entire video too emotional. The Stevie Wonder version is not on Project Playlist so we will make do with Frank Sinatra on the blog but Stevie is what we wanted for our memories :)

Thursday, April 10, 2008

What is UP with the airlines?!

At least another one has NOT bitten the dust. They have just grounded 1 of every 3 flights for the past two days. Hmmm. I checked the website and it looks like they project major cancellations from now until Sunday.

I'm a little nervous for my guests. I have three people flying on American Airlines, one of which is supposed to leave on Sunday. What. A. Pain. I hope that their flights go as scheduled. If not, I hope that there is at least some sort of resolution that can occur with the hotels so they don't have to pay for fees if, heaven forbid, they end up not being able to make it.
What the HELL is going on with all these airlines?!?!
OK, enough about that ... happy thoughts.
I think most of you know where I'm getting married. This is where the ceremony will be taking place:


I am NOT using chair covers (they are $20 a pop.) Nor will I have a big flower arrangement above us ... but you get the gist. There will be an aisle runner with loose orchids framing the sides. And the ocean will be our backdrop which makes me so very happy.
Here is where our reception is taking place:


Half of the party will be on solid flooring (I figured it would be easier for our older guests) and half will be in the sand. We could have had everyone on solid flooring but I like the idea of being right on the beach. The restaurant has replaced the tents with a permanent awning. What I liked about this venue is that we will be very close to the water. In fact, the only assigned seating we did was the sweetheart table ... when people look at the two of us, the ocean will be right behind us.
Everything I envision, in my head, seems really wonderful. I'm hoping it ends up that way in real life!

Monday, April 07, 2008

The joy through the insanity

I am not an event planner. My preference is to just show up and have fun. The Man is even less of a party planner than me. Between his barong not being here yet and the fact that he is going to be saying "declarations of love" in front of our families, The Man cannot wait for the wedding to be done. And, while I know I'm going to enjoy the day of our wedding ... I have to agree with him! We are both really looking forward to the vacation portion of it all. For me, it's the worrying that everything will go according to plan, people will have fun, like the food and that everything will end up as nice as I envisioned it in my head. Because, let's face it, it all sounds well and good but who the heck knows how things are going to play out. Take it for however it may sound but we both cannot wait to get married!
Despite the stress, there is a lot of joy in my life right now. Besides the fact that I'm getting hitched to the most fantastic guy I know, there have been other wonderful treats as the day gets closer. People in my life have rallied together and have made me feel so loved. They have made the days closer to the wedding actually bearable and having given me pockets of stress-free fun during such a busy time.
A few close friends got together and decided to throw me a tea party two weeks ago. With "penis" as the theme. No lie. Serves me right as these are the same women who had to put up with me for two years telling them different vagina words as they pass me by. Just to refresh your memory, my favorites to utter were snatch, cooter, poon, vajayjay ... it's been so long, I can't remember the rest. Anyway, I think two of the three women went to sex shops up and down the peninsula for this little party. There was a blow up doll (I think his name was Peter Peckerwood but I'm not sure), penis-shaped tea sandwiches, penis-shaped haupia (that was interesting considering that haupia is the color, of, umm, you know), penis skewers, penis straws, penis confetti ... you get the picture. Keep in mind, while I am very comfortable all topics vagina, I have never been a fan of penis decorations. I think that was the point.
But the effort ... these women were so sweet. They made delicious treats and tried to keep everything low fat and sugar free! One friend made scrumptious coconut bread pudding, pineapple pastries ... all sugar free. Another woman made the sandwiches with whole wheat bread and low fat egg salad and tuna salad. The other friend made a delicious salad with mandarin oranges and dried cranberries and also baked tortilla-d (in lieu of breaded) chicken. They were all trying to support my effort to eat healthily, especially before the wedding.
As a thank you, I made them little care kits to take to Hawaii. It included spray sunblock, chapstick with SPF, different types of their favorite alcohol in the small sizes (like the ones you get on a plane) and a travel-size Aleve for any headaches or hangovers :) These women are so sweet. They even made up a game where they asked Gil a bunch of questions before through email and then quizzed me on how well we knew each other. I think I got 98% right! I told him we should go on that Newlyweds show but, again, way outside his comfort zone ;)
I've included only one picture that is very modest and reserved. The other pictures with the penis paraphernalia ... well, I'm just not that comfortable posting!

And then, last week, my knitting group threw me a surprise get together. They told me it was a Sex and the City party (most of the women didn't see this show until my friend and I introduced it to them. And whooooo-doggie! They love it! Hehehe.) We've all talked about watching a few episodes before the movie comes out ... which we're going to see together ;) Anyway, I arrive and it ends up being a small dinner party for me! They were so sweet. One of them, a lovely lady in her 60s, decided to make me a condom lei. Seriously. I made her tell me the story of how she selected condoms at Target - "I wanted to get the colorful ones so it would make a pretty lei!" - and hid it among her other stuff because she was embarrassed. That alone made my night. But they, too, were so sweet and wanted to support my efforts to eat healthily. The dinner was all about making our own sushi hand rolls! It was a truly beautiful spread - fresh crab, unagi (they remembered that this is my absolute favorite!), cucumber, avocado, sprouts ... and they also made two different types of edamame to make it interesting - garlic and teriyaki. Just like my other friends, they really went out of their way to make it a healthy yet delicious dinner. They also made it festive by having flowers, colorful lantern lights, a little banner and cheesy but fun leis (sans condoms for the other folks.) Oh, and the one group member who couldn't make it even crocheted me a whip.
Foreel.
Here are these lovely ladies:

I feel really blessed. I am very thankful for the wonderful friends I have in my life. I did not expect any of this because we are having such a small wedding that I figured these kind of parties don't happen unless one has a big to do. But even though most of my friends are not coming, they still wanted to send me off. So although I am stressed, sometimes irritated (slightly to majorly, depending on the situation), and just wanting the wedding to already happen, I am so very happy.

Thursday, April 03, 2008

What a week

For the most part, this wedding has been drama-free. There was the ordeal with certain folks thinking they didn't have to RSVP ... but with the help of my sister, it got done. Then there was the delay of my wedding dress ... but it still came six weeks prior to the wedding date. And from the horror stories I've heard from friends, all of this really isn't that bad.
And then there was this week.
It first started off with one of my vendors and I kind of getting into it. Well, it was more like she was not responding to my emails or calls and I was freaking out because on April 1st, I realized I had less than 16 days to finalize everything. Although I asked for everything in March, I still didn't have a cake estimate, overall final budget or a date set to meet prior to the wedding. I was getting fed up and seriously considered figuring out a way to throw together a reception using the hotel instead of the restaurant. But I also knew that I was getting too emotional (aka pissed) about the whole situation so I asked my sister to step in and be the contact person moving forward. It was the best decision I could have made. Sister swooped in, comforted me, comforted the vendor (we won't even go into how much I thought it was crap that the vendor needed reassuring on how great she truly is) and it seemed like everything was resolved and back on track.
And then there was Thursday.
I got out of my early morning yoga class and had 8 missed calls. What the heck happened?!

Oh yes. I knew that Aloha Airlines had filed for bankruptcy last week. Nooo problem. We weren't using them to fly from the Bay Area to Oahu. We booked ATA flights. We had booked Aloha to fly from Oahu to Kauai but no biggie. We were told that ATA would be taking over all the flights.

That's right. The crap done hit the fan, girl. Both my mom and aunt had been trying to get a hold of me. They wanted to know if I knew that ATA filed for bankruptcy that morning and all flights have been cancelled. The two of them were searching furiously online to see if there were any flights left. They found an 11-hour flight with a layover in Arizona for $600.
Up until this past week, I thought I was a fairly calm bride. People have asked me throughout the eight months how the wedding plans were going and I didn't have much to say. But this was something else. And imagine that my mom and other family members were all riled up, rightfully so because they don't want to spend double what they had originally spent on airfare, and whipping up a nice batch of crazy all around me yet I had no way to even begin fixing the issue because I wasn't anywhere near a computer.
I didn't doubt for a moment that the wedding will happen. I just wasn't sure how we were going to pull off everything smoothly. We have to fly out on Sunday because all our appointments with the vendors and venues are on Monday. I may have been able to reschedule them for Tuesday but that is the day of our welcome breakfast for our guests, wedding rehearsal and the day we have to go back to Honolulu for our wedding license. And whatever else we forgot that will make us run around to do last minute things.
I debated if I should call The Man. I mean, what could he do at work? He no longer worked in an office and wouldn't have access to a computer. But he's also my best friend and I needed to share the crazy that had been all whipped up for me because I hoped he would make me feel better. So I called him. I asked him if he had heard the news about ATA. The Man said his boss asked him about it first thing in the morning. When The Man told him we were using ATA, his boss let him use his computer and phone to try to rebook our flights (to the wedding and the honeymoon.) The Man couldn’t get through to the contact numbers given by ATA so he asked his boss if he could take the rest of the day off to fix all of this from home.
I was nowhere near tears until I heard him say he was trying to take care of it. I was so happy to hear that that I almost started crying! Maybe it was relief that this wasn't something that I would have to try and fix like so many of the other things that have to do with the wedding. But no, the man swooped in and took it all on himself. He went all all the travel websites and after an hour, found a flight for$395 which was a steal compared to the Arizona layover flight and the $1,000 flights from United and American. Unfortunately, it has a lay over in LA but it’s only 35 minutes. (We have a straight flight on the way back.) We can live with that! We will be arriving on Sunday at 9:30pm so that means instead of getting to our hotel at 11:30am like our original plan, we get to our hotel sometime between 11:30pm and 12:00am! But considering our options, this was by far the best one.
We no longer have a straight flight from Kauai (our honeymoon) to Oakland like we did before. Instead, we have to fly back to Oahu and then leave for home from there.This also extended our trip from April 26th, when we were supposed to go home, to April 28th. We still need to find a hotel to stay at for those two days extra days. While I love vacationing in Hawaii, staying for over two weeks is a long time from home. And yes, laugh if you will, but we will truly miss our puppies, too! It's a long time to be away from both. We are homebodies! But if we have to get stuck with two extra days anywhere, Hawaii is probably my #1 choice. And, because the times we would be arriving and leaving have changed for both our wedding and honeymoon, The Man also had to make sure he changed everything with our car rentals. Because how much would it suck if the car rental place wasn't open when we come in at 10:30pm (we are anticipating getting our luggage and shlepping it to the car rental place may take a bit of time.) I hope we remembered everything that is affected by our change in flight plans.
Anyhow, everything is back on track and we are only spending $200 more on airfare rather than than the $1,200 we might have had to spend. The airlines fiasco hasn't hurt our attendance too much either. So far, only one couple has dropped from our list, making our party 38 now. I'm bummed that my aunt and uncle can't make it but completely understand. They were not able to find the same deal as we did and would have to spend double than their orginal airfare. We were happy to hear that most of our relatives booked on either Hawaiian Airlines, United or American. Phewwww.
So that was our week. What a pain in the ass. Today we found out that The Man's barong wasn't sent out like it was promised. The lady had told him that they had only one more barong in the style and size that The Man wanted and that she would send it out. Today she left a what she said was a "courtesy call" that they didn't have any in stock but if they get a shipment in, it may arrive on April 11th. The Man was not a happy man today. He has special ordered one from another vendor that is supposed to arrive this Wednesday. Cross your fingers for us. We did, however, take care of the rest of his outfit! We went to Banana Republic and bought some dark brown trousers and dark brown belt. Then we went to Macy's (bless the kind soul who gave us a $50 gift certificate for the bridal shower) and put the gift card towards a pair of dark brown dress shoes and socks. If you're wondering, yes, he was definitely making me sweat by waiting until the weekend before to buy his clothes for our wedding. But I was beginning to think that he was going to wait until we got to Waikiki so I am quite pleased that all of those purchases are now checked off of his list.
Send us good wedding thoughts from now until April 16th! Although my sister assured me that these crazy incidents guarantee a wonderful marriage, I think we're all stocked up on craziness. And wasn't that message along the same lines of when Carrie was trying to comfor Charlotte when she was having a crappy 2nd wedding? I'm hoping that the actual event ends up nice!