I am flattered when people want to introduce me to their son/nephew/brother/friend. It means they think I would be ideal for their loved one. And it's a nice little ego boost because it tells me, "Hey, I still got the stuff!" Silly, I know, but since I'm not big on flirting, any other indications that I could possibly still be attractive to the opposite sex is such a nice surprise. (I won't delve into my insecurity issues - I'm human and they're there.)
Of course, these people know that I'm with The Man. Which may also contribute to the "appeal." (You know, like when a guy you never thought of as boyfriend material gets a girlfriend and then you think, hey, he might be a great boyfriend. Of course I'VE never had that thought. I'm just saying.)
What's my point? A colleague wanted to introduce me to her brother-in-law. She brought this up even though she saw The Man's pictures in my office*. I replied that I was flattered but I'm very, very happy in my relationship. Observing my hula dancer pictures, she said, "You like Hawaii, right? Well, my brother-in-law has two houses in Hawaii. Just something to think about." What the ...?! That's playing dirty!**
No, no, no, I didn't even entertain the idea. I am madly in love (I have a big bruise on my thigh to prove it! Read previous entry.) But DANG. When did bribery become part of the matchmaking process? Son of a biscuit. I have to confess, I haven't given the guy a second thought but I do often daydream about those houses.
Anyhow, don't be annoyed when someone wants to fix you up. I know some folks think it's horrible and a pity gesture. It's not, it's a compliment. It means that they think you're swell and they want you to meet someone they think is equally swell. [Of course, there are those times when this theory backfires. It's when you meet the person that is supposedly "perfect" for you and by the end of the date, you want to beat them with their own arm - I know, I have stories.]
*I have a picture frame that doubles as a flip album so I can contain all my pictures of us. I didn't want to be one of those girlfriends that have a freakin' shrine of their man.
**She was actually genuinely happy that I'm in a good relationship. I think that since she married when she was in her 40s she figured she would offer options to me. Not that that would make The Man more understanding of this scenario or make his heart warm and fuzzy.
6 comments:
I used to try setting my friends up. I thought, I love them, how could anyone else not?
One non-couple ended it because on the 3rd date he called her a lesbian and she said he was the devil. After a different- but yes, spectacularly failed attempt- both parties yelled at me about "that crazed freak." But most apparently just ended w/ tears.
WGD has forbidden any more match-making by yours truly.
You know LD...I was wondering if maybe you wanted to meet my husband. ;)
wow, that's interesteing..tell the sister to back off! You belong to "us" (us meaning Albert's "best friend" and I). "I know, I know, what can you say...your one hot cookie!"
Wow Sassygirl, what an offer!;)
And Pookiepie, OF COURSE I belong to The Man, you and the rest of the group! xoxo
Ahh, I believe there is a difference, Ms Lips. Matchmaking is fixing up two people you know b/c you think they would be great together. And then there's fixing up your son with a total stranger just because she's from the Philippines and SUPPOSEDLY knows how to cook, is docile and doesn't understand the stupid things that come out of your son's mouth. Yup, that's pretty much it!
Pinay, and docile? Who do you know that fits THAT bill? Every Pilipina I know is a fiesty thing... (just give her time)
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