We're putting our house up for sale.
It's a scary decision. As I've mentioned time and time again, I don't like change. After having a baby, I find comfort in routine and schedule. Before, I didn't necessarily think change and risk were synonymous.
I miss that part of me.
Well, I'm out of my comfort zone. There's no real plan. We don't even have a place in place for when we sell the house because the current market doesn't favor bids that are contingent upon selling another house. Buyers offering money (even if its less than the asking price) are preferred because they're a sure thing versus people like us who need to sell our home in order to have money to buy. We will most likely have to move twice. Once to an apartment and then one more time when we find a home to buy. Of course, there are the other significant factors like extending offers to multiple homes because it will take a while before ours gets accepted. I wish our first bid to our first choice would be it but I don't know of that happening to anyone!
Ah, I remember how I fell in love with a home only to find out it just wasn't meant to be. I felt so silly to let an inanimate object break my heart!
But I'm trying to channel that old part of me who just did it and trusted all would fall into place. The person who welcomed and was even excited about change! I never ever saw myself as a "risk taker". I think the best way to describe that old me was a semi-high strung gal who went with the flow;) I hope to be this person again. I'm certainly working on it!
I also know that all of this is bigger than me. We can't ignore that this burglary feels like a sign. We had been talking for months about moving and how we wanted to eventually but The Man and I dreaded all the work that would go along with this huge decision. So we did nothing. Then we finally checked out a house for sale, just to see. But I don't think we would have done more. Then we had a home invasion.
I may not like change but we definitely got the hint.
We've been going to church and I've been so happy. We've been happy! It feels beyond good to have God in our lives and introducing God into The Bun's life. So I keep telling myself we have to trust in him. This burglary was undeniably a huge nudge for us and we are moving forward.
This is a very new adventure for us that I'm trying to view as exciting, not scary or cumbersome. Here we go!
Thursday, February 14, 2013
Tuesday, February 05, 2013
Burglarized
I'm not sure what to write. I know I don't want to go into great detail just because it's depressing.
Our house was burglarized yesterday afternoon. We have an alarm system, a very loud one at that, and two yappy dogs. But they still hit up our house.
I'm thankful they didn't hurt or kill our pups. I tell you, when The Man told me to come home immediately, I was so worried about our furry babies. Then, of course, are our belongings and memories. I'm thankful that, while our alarm didn't stop them from intruding, it did cause them to move fast and be in and out in two minutes. They took what they could shove into their pockets or bag and was easily carried while they jumped our fence.
Ironically, The Man and I have been talking about moving to another city because The Bun would be starting school next year. We contemplated staying in our current home and paying for private school or moving to be in a better school district. I was apprehensive about moving because, while our school district is the pits, we are blessed with a nice new home in a good neighborhood. If we were to move, we can only afford an older home that would need repairs. Plus, I've become more reserved when it comes to change.
It appears that we are being not-so-softly nudged into considering a new place to call home.
Our house was burglarized yesterday afternoon. We have an alarm system, a very loud one at that, and two yappy dogs. But they still hit up our house.
I'm thankful they didn't hurt or kill our pups. I tell you, when The Man told me to come home immediately, I was so worried about our furry babies. Then, of course, are our belongings and memories. I'm thankful that, while our alarm didn't stop them from intruding, it did cause them to move fast and be in and out in two minutes. They took what they could shove into their pockets or bag and was easily carried while they jumped our fence.
Ironically, The Man and I have been talking about moving to another city because The Bun would be starting school next year. We contemplated staying in our current home and paying for private school or moving to be in a better school district. I was apprehensive about moving because, while our school district is the pits, we are blessed with a nice new home in a good neighborhood. If we were to move, we can only afford an older home that would need repairs. Plus, I've become more reserved when it comes to change.
It appears that we are being not-so-softly nudged into considering a new place to call home.
Saturday, January 05, 2013
Monday, December 31, 2012
Starting a new New Year's Eve tradition
The Bun has slept in her own room since she was six weeks old. This is probably why we all (The Man, me and The Bun) sleep better ... This is what we're all accustomed to doing.
Side note: No, I'm not even going to touch the whole family bed versus own room debate, this is just what works well for us.
Anyhoo.
We decided that it would be a treat for The Bun and a nice way to ring in the New Year - sleeping together in our family/living room downstairs. We pulled out the sofa bed (which, by the way, is very comfy and we paid extra to make sure this was the case!) and made it up so we can ring in 2013 among all our Christmas decorations before we take them all down.
It's way more fun than it sounds. See?
Gone are the days of partying to ring in the new year. To be quite honest, it's been a very long time since I've done that. I know that my opinions can always change but I've found that I'm much more of a homebody and love being warm and ASLEEP. This is my perfect way of celebrating the new year:)
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Side note: No, I'm not even going to touch the whole family bed versus own room debate, this is just what works well for us.
Anyhoo.
We decided that it would be a treat for The Bun and a nice way to ring in the New Year - sleeping together in our family/living room downstairs. We pulled out the sofa bed (which, by the way, is very comfy and we paid extra to make sure this was the case!) and made it up so we can ring in 2013 among all our Christmas decorations before we take them all down.
It's way more fun than it sounds. See?
Gone are the days of partying to ring in the new year. To be quite honest, it's been a very long time since I've done that. I know that my opinions can always change but I've found that I'm much more of a homebody and love being warm and ASLEEP. This is my perfect way of celebrating the new year:)
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Friday, December 28, 2012
The most wonderful time of the year
December has been so busy. This year, especially. I felt like I could hardly enjoy it. And, for the first time, I really disliked how early the days got dark. But despite all my complaints (and aforementioned disappointments) my love for the holidays prevailed. It was wonderful. Here's why, in a snapshot. Well, more like several!
Birthday fun with a fellow Sagittarius:
Daddy's birthday dinner:
Visiting family in Clovis and admiring the Christmas lights:
The Bun's first time in a Debutante Ball:
Caroling for the first time:
The first Christmas in which The Bun appreciated and loved opening gifts!
As I post these photos, I realize that there were so many firsts this year. So many blessings this season. So much to be thankful for. And I am.
Birthday fun with a fellow Sagittarius:
Daddy's birthday dinner:
Visiting family in Clovis and admiring the Christmas lights:
The Bun's first time in a Debutante Ball:
Caroling for the first time:
The first Christmas in which The Bun appreciated and loved opening gifts!
As I post these photos, I realize that there were so many firsts this year. So many blessings this season. So much to be thankful for. And I am.
Thursday, December 13, 2012
It's been too long ...
... since I last wrote. I can't go into too many details but, basically, I've had a personal project going on for two months. I tried very hard to not let it affect my work and home life but I only succeeded in one so my home life suffered a bit. If it all shook out well, it would have been worth it in the long run.
But it didn't.
I'm so disappointed and don't think I have the energy, emotion and certainly time to start all over again. My family is most important. Not to mention my mental health:p
I'm thankful for all the other blessings I have in my life. I'm thankful my loved ones are still here and I've not suffered through deaths or devastating illnesses. I'm trying to maintain a positive perspective because I know there is so much good in my life.
But.
I'm so tired of being disappointed and feeling like a failure. I hate feeling second rate or just plain not good enough. I'm so tired of having to compromise my happiness and feeling of fulfillment for security.
Ready for the pity party? I received the news of said project's failure, MY failure, on my birthday. I stayed in bed and cried for most of the day.
See, it's not only about this particular project. It was the accumulation of all the many disappointments I've had this year. While I've also had many blessings, I was overwhelmed by just how many kicks to the groin (punches to the boob?) I've felt this year.
Ive prayed for patience. and understanding. i know better things are in store but when? Do I continue to try? I am usually a woman of action but I'm wondering if I'm supposed to wait for something to fall into lap. Not how I typically roll but I can't continue to do this. I'm exhausted putting forth all this effort to only be smacked down. Stick a fork in 2012. Please.
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But it didn't.
I'm so disappointed and don't think I have the energy, emotion and certainly time to start all over again. My family is most important. Not to mention my mental health:p
I'm thankful for all the other blessings I have in my life. I'm thankful my loved ones are still here and I've not suffered through deaths or devastating illnesses. I'm trying to maintain a positive perspective because I know there is so much good in my life.
But.
I'm so tired of being disappointed and feeling like a failure. I hate feeling second rate or just plain not good enough. I'm so tired of having to compromise my happiness and feeling of fulfillment for security.
Ready for the pity party? I received the news of said project's failure, MY failure, on my birthday. I stayed in bed and cried for most of the day.
See, it's not only about this particular project. It was the accumulation of all the many disappointments I've had this year. While I've also had many blessings, I was overwhelmed by just how many kicks to the groin (punches to the boob?) I've felt this year.
Ive prayed for patience. and understanding. i know better things are in store but when? Do I continue to try? I am usually a woman of action but I'm wondering if I'm supposed to wait for something to fall into lap. Not how I typically roll but I can't continue to do this. I'm exhausted putting forth all this effort to only be smacked down. Stick a fork in 2012. Please.
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Thursday, November 22, 2012
Monday, November 19, 2012
Thursday, October 11, 2012
What's getting me through the next month
I am IN THE WEEDS at the J-O-B. If I'm going to look for the silver lining, and we're talking looking real hard, being so swamped gives me very little time to dwell on personal things.
Happy to report that The Man, The Bun and I (The Mama:) are very good. Oh, and The Pups;)
I know I've complained about needing to tighten up the purse strings but, and I think I also mentioned this, I've said to hell with that this year. Between the emotional and physical issues this year as well as stress from the j-o-b, we all agreed that we can make this work. By we, I mean my village - My parents AKA The Bun's secondary care givers, hubby and me. It helped we also had those stipends from that effed up Hawaiian Airlines experience.
Truth be told, The Man needed some convincing. When we were in the thick of it the second time, he said we needed a vacation. This is a big deal because once we acquired more expenses like all that come with a home, he was less excited about vacations. In his job, he doesn't get PTO. So if he takes time off, he loses money. The Man sees it as a double loss - not only is he not getting paid but he's also paying for expenses incurred while on vacation. When I was at home and he was taking care of me, however, the sadness was palpable and I think he realized it would do us good to go on vacation.
Well, that was several weeks ago. Even though I was perusing possible places to stay, nothing fit in my very cheap budget. Except one. And it seemed like a very slim chance because it was through the military so first priority goes to active duty, second goes to retired. My dad (well, my mom on behalf of my dad) could only reserve a beach cottage two months in advance.
Let me stop for a second. The apple doesn't fall very far from the tree. My mom does NOT like to travel that way. This is a woman who plans months in advance. I being the apple and my mama being the tree am pretty much the same way. That's only eight weeks! But we decided to give it a try. With a very precise timeline, my mom called to reserve a cottage two months out from when I could travel. She was told that they don’t book for a holiday weekend so she would have to call back. She waited for two days and called at 5 AM, our time. They said that a cottage was available and we could book. What?!
I haven’t actually stayed there before so I can’t sing their praises just quite yet. I mean, I’ve got to experience it. But what is so great about them is that they are away from the bustle, on a military base and right on the beach. We’ve never been so I can’t say they’re perfect but, for our price, I’m going to say that they are pretty darn near perfect. For two bedroom cottage on the beach, we are paying $120/night. That means $60/night per couple. No frills, but it met all my requirements: clean, ground floor, two bedrooms, beach access.
When I went with my girlfriends and stayed in a condo, it was so nice being very close to the beach. When The Bun was tuckered out, I could go back to the condo and let her nap or just play indoors. Often times, I would hang out in the patio and she would just come out when she wanted attention. Because we were on the first floor, I had the luxury of having the family room (TV, couches and toys) right on the other side of the patio door. My daughter is not a wanderer, either, so I didn’t have to worry about her wanting to go in the kitchen, bedrooms or bathrooms. She just stuck around the family room or outside.
Anyway, once everything was booked, of course it was basically a reality. I swear, The Man SAW me looking online every night. He even helped with a condo search but found it too difficult to find everything that we were looking for that could even come close to the military cottage my mom found. But once the flights were booked and the cottages were reserved, The Man said something like, “Wait, what? I thought we were broke.” To which I replied, “You SAID we needed a vacation! You knew I was looking at flights and accommodations!” His retort? “When I said vacation, I meant Lake Tahoe!”
Now, I couldn't tell if he was serious or joking. I still can't. Seriously! But really, it’s too late. I’m looking forward to it. The Man admitted that he’s looking forward to being in Hawaii too. What he’s not looking forward to is the stress of traveling. I get it. My parents, specifically my mom, is pretty high-strung. He’s not looking forward to their bickering, the stress they cause me (I love them but they also can hit nerves no one else can … I think all family can, right?), the anxiety I already have from flying (I've had two horrific experiences so while I try to forget about them, I really can't) and of course the stress of flying with a three year old. Two hours of waiting, six hours of flight then another two hours or so to get our baggage, rental car and drive to the place we’re staying.
But that’s what Bloody Marys and Xanax are for, right? Well, I’ve never taken Xanax but I still have them from when I forgot to bring them on my last flight. And I think my need for some R&R trumps the inconvenience it takes to get there. And the dent it’s going to put in our savings. And while my mom and I can get on each other nerves, I'm honestly looking forward to being with them, too. Not only are they great and very helpful with The Bun, there really aren't that many opportunities for us to be together. Work obviously has me very busy during the weekdays and, on those weeknights, I'm too pooped to talk to anyone other than The Man & The Bun. Then the weekends just fly by. So I'm going to focus more on the good in that I'll be able to have some quality time with my folks, something kind of rare nowadays.
Plus, how can I dread anything that will result in me being here?
My body is nowhere near beach ready. I've got a ton of work deadlines prior to this trip. But I'm still really excited to be in one of my most favorite places and my fingers are crossed that Christmas decorations will be up. Because my absolute joy is seeing my favorite holiday's decorations up in one of my most favorite places with some of my very favorite people in the whole wide world. Now that's a lot of favorites right there;)
Happy to report that The Man, The Bun and I (The Mama:) are very good. Oh, and The Pups;)
I know I've complained about needing to tighten up the purse strings but, and I think I also mentioned this, I've said to hell with that this year. Between the emotional and physical issues this year as well as stress from the j-o-b, we all agreed that we can make this work. By we, I mean my village - My parents AKA The Bun's secondary care givers, hubby and me. It helped we also had those stipends from that effed up Hawaiian Airlines experience.
Truth be told, The Man needed some convincing. When we were in the thick of it the second time, he said we needed a vacation. This is a big deal because once we acquired more expenses like all that come with a home, he was less excited about vacations. In his job, he doesn't get PTO. So if he takes time off, he loses money. The Man sees it as a double loss - not only is he not getting paid but he's also paying for expenses incurred while on vacation. When I was at home and he was taking care of me, however, the sadness was palpable and I think he realized it would do us good to go on vacation.
Well, that was several weeks ago. Even though I was perusing possible places to stay, nothing fit in my very cheap budget. Except one. And it seemed like a very slim chance because it was through the military so first priority goes to active duty, second goes to retired. My dad (well, my mom on behalf of my dad) could only reserve a beach cottage two months in advance.
Let me stop for a second. The apple doesn't fall very far from the tree. My mom does NOT like to travel that way. This is a woman who plans months in advance. I being the apple and my mama being the tree am pretty much the same way. That's only eight weeks! But we decided to give it a try. With a very precise timeline, my mom called to reserve a cottage two months out from when I could travel. She was told that they don’t book for a holiday weekend so she would have to call back. She waited for two days and called at 5 AM, our time. They said that a cottage was available and we could book. What?!
I haven’t actually stayed there before so I can’t sing their praises just quite yet. I mean, I’ve got to experience it. But what is so great about them is that they are away from the bustle, on a military base and right on the beach. We’ve never been so I can’t say they’re perfect but, for our price, I’m going to say that they are pretty darn near perfect. For two bedroom cottage on the beach, we are paying $120/night. That means $60/night per couple. No frills, but it met all my requirements: clean, ground floor, two bedrooms, beach access.
When I went with my girlfriends and stayed in a condo, it was so nice being very close to the beach. When The Bun was tuckered out, I could go back to the condo and let her nap or just play indoors. Often times, I would hang out in the patio and she would just come out when she wanted attention. Because we were on the first floor, I had the luxury of having the family room (TV, couches and toys) right on the other side of the patio door. My daughter is not a wanderer, either, so I didn’t have to worry about her wanting to go in the kitchen, bedrooms or bathrooms. She just stuck around the family room or outside.
Anyway, once everything was booked, of course it was basically a reality. I swear, The Man SAW me looking online every night. He even helped with a condo search but found it too difficult to find everything that we were looking for that could even come close to the military cottage my mom found. But once the flights were booked and the cottages were reserved, The Man said something like, “Wait, what? I thought we were broke.” To which I replied, “You SAID we needed a vacation! You knew I was looking at flights and accommodations!” His retort? “When I said vacation, I meant Lake Tahoe!”
Now, I couldn't tell if he was serious or joking. I still can't. Seriously! But really, it’s too late. I’m looking forward to it. The Man admitted that he’s looking forward to being in Hawaii too. What he’s not looking forward to is the stress of traveling. I get it. My parents, specifically my mom, is pretty high-strung. He’s not looking forward to their bickering, the stress they cause me (I love them but they also can hit nerves no one else can … I think all family can, right?), the anxiety I already have from flying (I've had two horrific experiences so while I try to forget about them, I really can't) and of course the stress of flying with a three year old. Two hours of waiting, six hours of flight then another two hours or so to get our baggage, rental car and drive to the place we’re staying.
But that’s what Bloody Marys and Xanax are for, right? Well, I’ve never taken Xanax but I still have them from when I forgot to bring them on my last flight. And I think my need for some R&R trumps the inconvenience it takes to get there. And the dent it’s going to put in our savings. And while my mom and I can get on each other nerves, I'm honestly looking forward to being with them, too. Not only are they great and very helpful with The Bun, there really aren't that many opportunities for us to be together. Work obviously has me very busy during the weekdays and, on those weeknights, I'm too pooped to talk to anyone other than The Man & The Bun. Then the weekends just fly by. So I'm going to focus more on the good in that I'll be able to have some quality time with my folks, something kind of rare nowadays.
Plus, how can I dread anything that will result in me being here?
Wednesday, October 03, 2012
Been so busy
Haven't had time to blog. I had planned to do an update and an unfinished entry is sitting in my Drafts. I was going to write about the j-o-b, family and other stuff. My life has picked up pretty much seamlessly after all the hullabaloo.
But my HCG levels haven't gone down to zero, even though its been six weeks. And I have these pelvic cramps that won't go away. A friend suggested I was ovulating. But I've been cramping for a week now. Finally saw the doctor after speaking with the Kaiser Advice Line twice.
A little scared because I have lively imagination. Hope this pain goes away. Along with the remaining pregnancy tissue.
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But my HCG levels haven't gone down to zero, even though its been six weeks. And I have these pelvic cramps that won't go away. A friend suggested I was ovulating. But I've been cramping for a week now. Finally saw the doctor after speaking with the Kaiser Advice Line twice.
A little scared because I have lively imagination. Hope this pain goes away. Along with the remaining pregnancy tissue.
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Monday, September 03, 2012
The Methotrexate Monologues
Today, I woke up with the same pain I felt the day I needed surgery (but didn't know it yet). I wasn't bleeding but I was very worried that something was wrong and I would need surgery again. God forbid if they had to reopen my scars.
How awful would that be?
I called the Kaiser Advice Line again hoping they would shed some light and tell me that there was nothing to worry about. After a series of questions, the nurse admitted not being too familiar with methotrexate. She read me the same information I was given on Friday but that didn't address the pain and if I was having a bad reaction to the medication. She put me on hold so she could confer with the OB-GYN on call.
When the nurse got back on the line, she said that the doctor wasn't worried. I wasn't bleeding, I didn't have a fever and my wounds weren't infected. (Thank goodness for that, ugh.) I was having strong abdominal pain because the methotrexate was doing its job.
I had forgotten that way back when the doctors were talking to me about surgery versus methotrexate, I had learned that one of the downfalls to taking the medication was that it simulated a miscarriage. How could I forget that?
Having a D & C and, most recently, surgery, that was something I hadn't experienced yet - going through a natural miscarriage. While this isn't truly natural, the physical experience, according to my doctor, is very similar if not the same.
I'm trying so hard not to wallow in self-pity. I know there are women who have suffered far more than I and that there are far worse situations in this world. To just about everyone, I've been upbeat and not been nearly as negative about all of this as I have on this blog. I have been very matter-a-fact at work and jumped right back into the j-o-b.
But if I don't release it somewhere, all my anger, frustration and sadness, I think I'll explode. Worse, at a completely inappropriate place like work.
So forgive the wallowing (or not) but I'm so angry and upset that I've had two miscarriages in four months and that the last one comes with the two-for-one bonus of surgery AND the physical pain of going through a miscarriage naturally.
It just doesn't seem to ever end. Go away, already.
How awful would that be?
I called the Kaiser Advice Line again hoping they would shed some light and tell me that there was nothing to worry about. After a series of questions, the nurse admitted not being too familiar with methotrexate. She read me the same information I was given on Friday but that didn't address the pain and if I was having a bad reaction to the medication. She put me on hold so she could confer with the OB-GYN on call.
When the nurse got back on the line, she said that the doctor wasn't worried. I wasn't bleeding, I didn't have a fever and my wounds weren't infected. (Thank goodness for that, ugh.) I was having strong abdominal pain because the methotrexate was doing its job.
I had forgotten that way back when the doctors were talking to me about surgery versus methotrexate, I had learned that one of the downfalls to taking the medication was that it simulated a miscarriage. How could I forget that?
Having a D & C and, most recently, surgery, that was something I hadn't experienced yet - going through a natural miscarriage. While this isn't truly natural, the physical experience, according to my doctor, is very similar if not the same.
I'm trying so hard not to wallow in self-pity. I know there are women who have suffered far more than I and that there are far worse situations in this world. To just about everyone, I've been upbeat and not been nearly as negative about all of this as I have on this blog. I have been very matter-a-fact at work and jumped right back into the j-o-b.
But if I don't release it somewhere, all my anger, frustration and sadness, I think I'll explode. Worse, at a completely inappropriate place like work.
So forgive the wallowing (or not) but I'm so angry and upset that I've had two miscarriages in four months and that the last one comes with the two-for-one bonus of surgery AND the physical pain of going through a miscarriage naturally.
It just doesn't seem to ever end. Go away, already.
Saturday, September 01, 2012
Like a punk ass, I'm angry
Yesterday, I received a call. I saw on my caller ID that it was my doctor. I had done lab work twice since the surgery and knew he was calling me to tell me I was in the clear. I was slammed at work because I was still catching up from the six days I missed and also because it is THE busiest time of the year, work-wise. I thought about sending him to voicemail but then thought, heck, this guy cut me up, I should be respectful and answer his call. So I picked it up.
I should have known better and taken the call in privacy, not in cubicle land at work.
After asking me how I was feeling and I guess a little surprised that I said I was fine (this should have tipped me off) he said he was sorry to tell me that while the first lab tests were fine, my more recent results showed a presence of pregnancy hormones. This meant that there was still viable pregnancy tissue, not to be confused with a viable pregnancy (because that's laughable when it concerns my body - yes, bitter sarcasm right there). This pregnancy tissue in my Fallopian tube will grow and cause damage. I needed to come in to the hospital to take methotrexate. Yes, the drug I had a choice of taking in lieu of the surgery but, oh goodie, I get to take it anyway.
Folks, I am not a workaholic. But I was tired of this FUCKING ABNORMAL PREGNANCY THAT WILL NOT GO AWAY affecting my life. All of this and no baby in the end. Wouldn't you be fucking sick and tired?
I had back-to-back appointments all day, the last one being roughly an hour away from home. I asked the doctor if I could get medicine administered in the evening.
"No, unfortunately the lab can't do it, it has to be administered by a doctor or nurse."
"Can I come in tomorrow or sometime in the weekend?" I asked.
"Our offices aren't open and it's important you get this done right away. I'm calling you two days after your lab work so your levels have most likely increased."
Well, shit. So I said, "Can I come Tuesday? I have really important meetings today that I can't miss."
I know, I sounded like an asshole but the meeting in South San Francisco was a catered reception specifically scheduled, then rescheduled, so I could attend and make a presentation.
My irritated doctor responded, "We're talking about your health here."
Shit, shit, shit.
I agreed and told him I would cancel the meeting and work on getting there early this afternoon. Before you think he's the most awesome person for thinking about my health when I clearly am too mad and lame to do so, let me share how the rest of the day goes.
I only shedded a few tears at my cube. I still had to pull it together for a morning meeting and I was bringing along my intern. On my way to that meeting, I made a call to my afternoon appointment to let them know I had a medical complication that needed immediate attention. I was very apologetic. They really want a rep to be there. I then called and pleaded with my boss to see if she could go. She knew the entire situation so she moved her day around to help. After my first meeting, it was already the afternoon. I dropped of my intern back at work and then emotionally fell apart and tearfully called The Man to see if he could come with me. He was off work but I hadn't called him about any of this until I was on my way to the hospital. I meant it when I said work was crazy busy.
I picked up The Man and then headed to the hospital. I followed my doctor's orders to go to the lab first. Miracle of miracles, there was no one waiting. Seriously, I've never seen it like this. I thought to myself, what a small perk to a cruddy day. We were out of there within minutes. Then I went to my doctor's station (if you have Kaiser, you know what mean.) The receptionist was perplexed by my presence because I wasn't on the schedule. I let her know my doctor had called me earlier in the morning and insisted I needed to come in. Still a blank face. But she called his nurse to get it straightened out. His nurse came out a few minutes later to let me know there is a specific area with a nurse who administered the methotrexate.
We walked to a different station, checked in and waited.
The nurse came out 15 minutes later and apologized. "I'm waiting on the pharmacy to bring up the medication. Because they have to mix it, it could take 15 minutes to a half hour."
We waited. For 45 minutes. I kid you not when I went to the receptionist to ask how much longer and she exclaimed, "You're still here?!"
An hour and forty-five minutes later (What. The. Fuck.), the nurse called my name and then profusely apologized. She said that the medication was finally ready. I knew it wasn't her fault. Her office was supposed to close at 4:00 and it was already 5:15 PM. I told her I didn't blame her to which she replied, "Blame Dr. Young. He was supposed to call this in to the pharmacy. He knows the protocol."
I was surprised by this. "But I told him I was on my way four hours ago."
"He called me to let me know," she responded, "but he's the only who has to call it into the pharmacy because of the type of medication it is and he never did. The pharmacy was confused when I called to find out the status and we had to wait for them to get in touch with Dr. Young before they could make it. It can take up to a couple of hours to make this so that's why you waited such a long time rather than it being done by the time you got here."
Fucking Dr. Young. (I know I'm swearing far more in this post than I ever have before. But I'm telling you, I'm angry.)
I won't lie, I'm no toughie and my tolerance for pain is pretty low. But when she stuck the big needle in my right hip, I cried out loud and jerked. That shit hurt bad. Then it burned. I cried because of the pain. I cried because I was also still dealing with a bullshit pregnancy that wasn't a real pregnancy. I was angry because I was still getting hurt for something that would never be. And I was so so mad about it all.
The second shot didn't hurt as bad but I think I worried the nurse from my first reaction. She asked me of I had ever taken methotrexate. I told her no.
"I'm so sorry to ask you this, especially after you've waited for so long. But I want to make sure you don't have a reaction. Can you stay for 15 more minutes?"
Sure. Why the fuck not. We had already been there for 2 1/2 hours.
I left the room and The Man looked worried because of my tears. He asked if it hurt and I said yes. I sat down and we held hands. A few minutes later,he said, "I understand if you don't want to try anymore. I know you said not this year but you would want to try next year. I understand if you changed your mind."
I just don't know about any of this anymore.
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I should have known better and taken the call in privacy, not in cubicle land at work.
After asking me how I was feeling and I guess a little surprised that I said I was fine (this should have tipped me off) he said he was sorry to tell me that while the first lab tests were fine, my more recent results showed a presence of pregnancy hormones. This meant that there was still viable pregnancy tissue, not to be confused with a viable pregnancy (because that's laughable when it concerns my body - yes, bitter sarcasm right there). This pregnancy tissue in my Fallopian tube will grow and cause damage. I needed to come in to the hospital to take methotrexate. Yes, the drug I had a choice of taking in lieu of the surgery but, oh goodie, I get to take it anyway.
Folks, I am not a workaholic. But I was tired of this FUCKING ABNORMAL PREGNANCY THAT WILL NOT GO AWAY affecting my life. All of this and no baby in the end. Wouldn't you be fucking sick and tired?
I had back-to-back appointments all day, the last one being roughly an hour away from home. I asked the doctor if I could get medicine administered in the evening.
"No, unfortunately the lab can't do it, it has to be administered by a doctor or nurse."
"Can I come in tomorrow or sometime in the weekend?" I asked.
"Our offices aren't open and it's important you get this done right away. I'm calling you two days after your lab work so your levels have most likely increased."
Well, shit. So I said, "Can I come Tuesday? I have really important meetings today that I can't miss."
I know, I sounded like an asshole but the meeting in South San Francisco was a catered reception specifically scheduled, then rescheduled, so I could attend and make a presentation.
My irritated doctor responded, "We're talking about your health here."
Shit, shit, shit.
I agreed and told him I would cancel the meeting and work on getting there early this afternoon. Before you think he's the most awesome person for thinking about my health when I clearly am too mad and lame to do so, let me share how the rest of the day goes.
I only shedded a few tears at my cube. I still had to pull it together for a morning meeting and I was bringing along my intern. On my way to that meeting, I made a call to my afternoon appointment to let them know I had a medical complication that needed immediate attention. I was very apologetic. They really want a rep to be there. I then called and pleaded with my boss to see if she could go. She knew the entire situation so she moved her day around to help. After my first meeting, it was already the afternoon. I dropped of my intern back at work and then emotionally fell apart and tearfully called The Man to see if he could come with me. He was off work but I hadn't called him about any of this until I was on my way to the hospital. I meant it when I said work was crazy busy.
I picked up The Man and then headed to the hospital. I followed my doctor's orders to go to the lab first. Miracle of miracles, there was no one waiting. Seriously, I've never seen it like this. I thought to myself, what a small perk to a cruddy day. We were out of there within minutes. Then I went to my doctor's station (if you have Kaiser, you know what mean.) The receptionist was perplexed by my presence because I wasn't on the schedule. I let her know my doctor had called me earlier in the morning and insisted I needed to come in. Still a blank face. But she called his nurse to get it straightened out. His nurse came out a few minutes later to let me know there is a specific area with a nurse who administered the methotrexate.
We walked to a different station, checked in and waited.
The nurse came out 15 minutes later and apologized. "I'm waiting on the pharmacy to bring up the medication. Because they have to mix it, it could take 15 minutes to a half hour."
We waited. For 45 minutes. I kid you not when I went to the receptionist to ask how much longer and she exclaimed, "You're still here?!"
An hour and forty-five minutes later (What. The. Fuck.), the nurse called my name and then profusely apologized. She said that the medication was finally ready. I knew it wasn't her fault. Her office was supposed to close at 4:00 and it was already 5:15 PM. I told her I didn't blame her to which she replied, "Blame Dr. Young. He was supposed to call this in to the pharmacy. He knows the protocol."
I was surprised by this. "But I told him I was on my way four hours ago."
"He called me to let me know," she responded, "but he's the only who has to call it into the pharmacy because of the type of medication it is and he never did. The pharmacy was confused when I called to find out the status and we had to wait for them to get in touch with Dr. Young before they could make it. It can take up to a couple of hours to make this so that's why you waited such a long time rather than it being done by the time you got here."
Fucking Dr. Young. (I know I'm swearing far more in this post than I ever have before. But I'm telling you, I'm angry.)
I won't lie, I'm no toughie and my tolerance for pain is pretty low. But when she stuck the big needle in my right hip, I cried out loud and jerked. That shit hurt bad. Then it burned. I cried because of the pain. I cried because I was also still dealing with a bullshit pregnancy that wasn't a real pregnancy. I was angry because I was still getting hurt for something that would never be. And I was so so mad about it all.
The second shot didn't hurt as bad but I think I worried the nurse from my first reaction. She asked me of I had ever taken methotrexate. I told her no.
"I'm so sorry to ask you this, especially after you've waited for so long. But I want to make sure you don't have a reaction. Can you stay for 15 more minutes?"
Sure. Why the fuck not. We had already been there for 2 1/2 hours.
I left the room and The Man looked worried because of my tears. He asked if it hurt and I said yes. I sat down and we held hands. A few minutes later,he said, "I understand if you don't want to try anymore. I know you said not this year but you would want to try next year. I understand if you changed your mind."
I just don't know about any of this anymore.
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Sunday, August 26, 2012
I've decided
I'm not going to beat around the bush if people at work (or volunteers) ask me why I was gone last week.
I realize that this will probably make people feel uncomfortable. And probably a little guilty for asking. But that's not why I'm doing it. I'm going to tell them, "I had a miscarriage which resulted in surgery" because I have nothing to be ashamed of. If I had a heart attack, stroke or accident, it wouldn't be any different.
I think it's fair to let people know so that a) they know why I'm taking it a little easy, physically and b) that I wasn't on some fantastic vacation during the busiest time of my job. OK, part of me is so that once I answer their question with a very honest and frank answer, the subject is abruptly closed. If this wasn't my busiest time of year, I would probably take two weeks off. But I can't. And, according to the handy directions (four pages long, mind you) given by my doctor, it is advised that I try to go back to normal as soon as possible. So, tomorrrow, I go back to work.
Yes, it's personal and again, will probably make people uncomfortable. While I won't share this piece of information, this was my second miscarriage in four months. I'll be honest, I'm traumatized. I try to be very matter-of-fact about it and, most times, I convince myself that it's clinical, above all else.
But there are moments, these moments that I have, in which the overwhelming sadness takes hold of me and I tear up. I know I'm blessed, absolutely blessed, to have the beautiful daughter that I have and the life that I lead. And I swear, I tell myself that every day. But sometimes that damn sadness takes over even though I try my hardest to silence those thoughts, they come anyway.
So why not be honest about what happened?
I realize that this will probably make people feel uncomfortable. And probably a little guilty for asking. But that's not why I'm doing it. I'm going to tell them, "I had a miscarriage which resulted in surgery" because I have nothing to be ashamed of. If I had a heart attack, stroke or accident, it wouldn't be any different.
I think it's fair to let people know so that a) they know why I'm taking it a little easy, physically and b) that I wasn't on some fantastic vacation during the busiest time of my job. OK, part of me is so that once I answer their question with a very honest and frank answer, the subject is abruptly closed. If this wasn't my busiest time of year, I would probably take two weeks off. But I can't. And, according to the handy directions (four pages long, mind you) given by my doctor, it is advised that I try to go back to normal as soon as possible. So, tomorrrow, I go back to work.
Yes, it's personal and again, will probably make people uncomfortable. While I won't share this piece of information, this was my second miscarriage in four months. I'll be honest, I'm traumatized. I try to be very matter-of-fact about it and, most times, I convince myself that it's clinical, above all else.
But there are moments, these moments that I have, in which the overwhelming sadness takes hold of me and I tear up. I know I'm blessed, absolutely blessed, to have the beautiful daughter that I have and the life that I lead. And I swear, I tell myself that every day. But sometimes that damn sadness takes over even though I try my hardest to silence those thoughts, they come anyway.
So why not be honest about what happened?
Wednesday, August 22, 2012
Post Haze - Day 1
While there is definitely still pain, the Vicodin is affecting me more negatively than positively.
I find the haziness beneficial because it kind of makes me void of emotion. Unfortunately, it also brings me to the brink of sleep and then yanks me back. Every time. I wake up every two hours, rendering me pretty useless awake or asleep. Another side affect is that I'm seriously constipated. No go, amigo. Even with a generous amount of prune juice.
Since Vicodin takes away most pain, I've had to replace it with an arsenal of alternatives:
I have Ibuprofen, GasX, throat spray (sore from the breathing tube) and good old prune juice.
According to my post surgery directions, I also have to walk to get my bowels active and the shoulder pain (from air pumped into my stomach) to dissipate. So I'm walking extremely slow for 20 minutes, three times a day. All while taking shots of prune juice.
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I find the haziness beneficial because it kind of makes me void of emotion. Unfortunately, it also brings me to the brink of sleep and then yanks me back. Every time. I wake up every two hours, rendering me pretty useless awake or asleep. Another side affect is that I'm seriously constipated. No go, amigo. Even with a generous amount of prune juice.
Since Vicodin takes away most pain, I've had to replace it with an arsenal of alternatives:
According to my post surgery directions, I also have to walk to get my bowels active and the shoulder pain (from air pumped into my stomach) to dissipate. So I'm walking extremely slow for 20 minutes, three times a day. All while taking shots of prune juice.
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Tuesday, August 21, 2012
In a Vicodin haze
After a much needed and appreciated beautiful day with my little family, I woke up Monday morning ready for the week. 5:00 AM, to be exact. I woke up with The Man and just decided to start my day rather than try to get an extra 45 minutes in.
Around 6:30 AM, I started to get really bad cramps. By the time The Bun woke up, I was in tears. I've been constipated before (due to pregnancy) but this was a whole new level. It was so bad that I called my parents to see if they could come over to take care of The Bun while I worked it out. Thank goodness, my mom said they would be right over.
She's the one who suspected something much more serious. I had been moded before about this - going to the doctor thinking it was something else and finding out it was just constipation. Luckily, though, my mom can be very persuasive. She convinced me to let my Dad take me to the hospital while she took care of The Bun. Even if it was just constipation, I could at least get medication for it.
Long story short, I was diagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy. I was told I should have surgery the same day because of the pain and bleeding. My Fallopian tube could rupture and then I would be in serious trouble. I asked and received a second opinion. Same response. I called The Man but his work phone was off. Crying harder at the thought that he wouldn't come in time, I requested an operator to notify his supervisor to have him contact me. He came home immediately. He said the minute his boss told him I was looking for him, he knew I was having a miscarriage.
I had the surgery in the afternoon. The paperwork they had me sign prior to the surgery was scary. Risk of having to remove my tube if the mass was too big. Risk of re-opening my c-section scar if there were complications. Thankfully, no complications.
I am, however, emotionally and physically drained. The doctor also told me that I have a higher chance of another ectopic pregnancy because I now have a history. I think it's a 20% chance. Shit. For certain, we are done trying to have another baby this year. The Man said that we don't have to try again because he doesn't want me to go through this a third time. My mom thinks that I should stop trying because it's a lot to put on my body. I don't know. Maybe we are done, period. The Man says adoption is a consideration but I can't wrap my head around that quite yet.
The one good thing about the pain (and yes, it is far more painful than my D&C) is that, between the discomfort and the Vicodin, I don't want to cry. I'm pretty removed from the emotional pain. Maybe that will return when the physical pain goes away but I'm going to be thankful for its absence in the meantime.
Around 6:30 AM, I started to get really bad cramps. By the time The Bun woke up, I was in tears. I've been constipated before (due to pregnancy) but this was a whole new level. It was so bad that I called my parents to see if they could come over to take care of The Bun while I worked it out. Thank goodness, my mom said they would be right over.
She's the one who suspected something much more serious. I had been moded before about this - going to the doctor thinking it was something else and finding out it was just constipation. Luckily, though, my mom can be very persuasive. She convinced me to let my Dad take me to the hospital while she took care of The Bun. Even if it was just constipation, I could at least get medication for it.
Long story short, I was diagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy. I was told I should have surgery the same day because of the pain and bleeding. My Fallopian tube could rupture and then I would be in serious trouble. I asked and received a second opinion. Same response. I called The Man but his work phone was off. Crying harder at the thought that he wouldn't come in time, I requested an operator to notify his supervisor to have him contact me. He came home immediately. He said the minute his boss told him I was looking for him, he knew I was having a miscarriage.
I had the surgery in the afternoon. The paperwork they had me sign prior to the surgery was scary. Risk of having to remove my tube if the mass was too big. Risk of re-opening my c-section scar if there were complications. Thankfully, no complications.
I am, however, emotionally and physically drained. The doctor also told me that I have a higher chance of another ectopic pregnancy because I now have a history. I think it's a 20% chance. Shit. For certain, we are done trying to have another baby this year. The Man said that we don't have to try again because he doesn't want me to go through this a third time. My mom thinks that I should stop trying because it's a lot to put on my body. I don't know. Maybe we are done, period. The Man says adoption is a consideration but I can't wrap my head around that quite yet.
The one good thing about the pain (and yes, it is far more painful than my D&C) is that, between the discomfort and the Vicodin, I don't want to cry. I'm pretty removed from the emotional pain. Maybe that will return when the physical pain goes away but I'm going to be thankful for its absence in the meantime.
Friday, August 17, 2012
I'd love to say it ends well ...
but I'm pretty sure it doesn't.
I'd like to believe I'm not superstitious. I believe in God and faith doesn't exactly go hand and hand with being superstitious. When I took this test, I thought about the first time and how everything ended up OK. That was when I told The Man in a very unromantic, unceremonious way that I was pregnant. The second time I took this test, I decided I was going to be creative, loving and sweet in my approach. I wrapped up the test in a little box along with scantily yet tastefully photos of his wife. He first saw the photos, then opened the box. I joked after he saw the test that he better remember when his wife's body saw better times because it was going to go through the ringer again. Although I'm glad I was able to tell him in such a fun way, the pregnancy ended much too quickly.
So here I was, a month late when I decided to take a test. Yes, a month. I knew I was being irrational but I wanted to delay knowing as long as possible. I had already been taking prenatal pills and when I suspected I was late, I laid off the alcohol. But I delayed taking the test because I almost didn't want to know. The doctors don't see a person (unless there are complications) until she is at least two months along. I didn't want to be anxious in the interim because nothing can be done until then.
But after a month, I figured I should just do it. So I did:
I was so nervous because the last time I had been down this road, it ended badly. Remembering how the first time versus the second time went, I practically tossed this on the bed next to The Man and nonchalantly said, "So, I guess this settles it" or something to that effect. Just like the first time, he didn't even know I had taken it. He replied, "Really? So you're pregnant?" And I nodded. He leans over, gives me a hug and kiss and says, "I love you" and " ... good luck", with a concerned look. I mean, it's really all one can say.
A week later, I started to bleed. It started as spotting and then it got heavier, like a period. So this past Wednesday, I saw the doctor. Excluding the blood, it was like deja vu.
"Well, you could be really early but I don't see anything yet." No flutter. Not like the first time. Much like the second. But, again, the doctor said I could just be really early. I wasn't going to fall for that false hope again. I was then asked to go to the lab the next day, then possibly the weekend and then see my doctor the following week.
The part that broke my heart, though, the question I was surprised would bring tears to my eyes, was when the doctor asked, "How many pregnancies have you had, including this one?"
"Three."
Three pregnancies. One child. I'm not the greatest at math but it doesn't add up. How could I be pregnant three times and only have one child?
How many more times do I want to put myself through this before I'm done? And, just like last time, they can't tell me that there is no baby until they do more tests. I tried so hard to harden myself before attempting this again. But no amount of mental preparation is enough to overpower the overwhelming defeat I feel that I can't seem to get past being a one-hit wonder.
I feel so blessed to even have one child. But I didn't know it would be impossible to have more. Why?
So here I am, waiting again to hear back on my lab results and while I'm expecting bad news, they still won't give me a definite answer until I see my doctor next week. So I wait and I wait.
I'd like to believe I'm not superstitious. I believe in God and faith doesn't exactly go hand and hand with being superstitious. When I took this test, I thought about the first time and how everything ended up OK. That was when I told The Man in a very unromantic, unceremonious way that I was pregnant. The second time I took this test, I decided I was going to be creative, loving and sweet in my approach. I wrapped up the test in a little box along with scantily yet tastefully photos of his wife. He first saw the photos, then opened the box. I joked after he saw the test that he better remember when his wife's body saw better times because it was going to go through the ringer again. Although I'm glad I was able to tell him in such a fun way, the pregnancy ended much too quickly.
So here I was, a month late when I decided to take a test. Yes, a month. I knew I was being irrational but I wanted to delay knowing as long as possible. I had already been taking prenatal pills and when I suspected I was late, I laid off the alcohol. But I delayed taking the test because I almost didn't want to know. The doctors don't see a person (unless there are complications) until she is at least two months along. I didn't want to be anxious in the interim because nothing can be done until then.
But after a month, I figured I should just do it. So I did:
A week later, I started to bleed. It started as spotting and then it got heavier, like a period. So this past Wednesday, I saw the doctor. Excluding the blood, it was like deja vu.
"Well, you could be really early but I don't see anything yet." No flutter. Not like the first time. Much like the second. But, again, the doctor said I could just be really early. I wasn't going to fall for that false hope again. I was then asked to go to the lab the next day, then possibly the weekend and then see my doctor the following week.
The part that broke my heart, though, the question I was surprised would bring tears to my eyes, was when the doctor asked, "How many pregnancies have you had, including this one?"
"Three."
Three pregnancies. One child. I'm not the greatest at math but it doesn't add up. How could I be pregnant three times and only have one child?
How many more times do I want to put myself through this before I'm done? And, just like last time, they can't tell me that there is no baby until they do more tests. I tried so hard to harden myself before attempting this again. But no amount of mental preparation is enough to overpower the overwhelming defeat I feel that I can't seem to get past being a one-hit wonder.
I feel so blessed to even have one child. But I didn't know it would be impossible to have more. Why?
So here I am, waiting again to hear back on my lab results and while I'm expecting bad news, they still won't give me a definite answer until I see my doctor next week. So I wait and I wait.
Monday, August 13, 2012
More power than she'll ever know
Sometimes I have awful, miserable days. Sometimes, she is the saving grace of my day. She makes me put on a brave face because I can't let her see my misery. She makes me be better because I'm selfless instead of selfish. And, if I'm really lucky, I forget the black cloud following me around.
It's a lot of power for a wee little one. I can't really say that I give it to her because that's too much responsibility. But I think, beyond her and me, it just is what it is. For that, I feel so blessed that this wonderfully sweet, funny, charming and beautiful girl is my daughter.
I love her so so much.
It's a lot of power for a wee little one. I can't really say that I give it to her because that's too much responsibility. But I think, beyond her and me, it just is what it is. For that, I feel so blessed that this wonderfully sweet, funny, charming and beautiful girl is my daughter.
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| The Bun's first coconut. Yum! Well, fan of the juice, not so much of the flesh. |
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| First time bravely climbing the fence to see the water (yikes!) and the first time seeing this little creek. She was so happy. Lucky for me, her happiness is infectious. |
Wednesday, August 01, 2012
Quality time with out-of-town family
It just seemed like a good day to head out to Half Moon Bay. While it was warm in our city, I warned my mom-in-law, Nanay, and brother-in-law, CJ, that it was going to be cold. I'm not sure if they believed me. They live in the Central Valley which was in the midst of 100+ degrees so my suggestion probably sounded nuts. But they donned some jeans and sweatshirts.
I did not lead them astray. We got to HMB and it was chilly!
Who would've thought this photo was taken in July?
Is my girl giving stink eye? Noooo, she's just squinting:)
It is really difficult to find a photo in which everyone is looking into the camera. The bigger the group, the more challenging the task!
Nanay LOVED this weather. She said it was like a different world.
We went on a Sunday and stumbled upon a Farmers' Market. There was produce, of course, but inside the harbor center, there were artists. I fell in love with this piece:
How beachy is this? I'm familiar with sand dollars but I don't think I've seen puffy shells like the ones framing the mirror. So pretty!
But The Man wasn't a huge fan. One, he didn't like that the artist never said hi to me. I had gone back several times to admire it and then to bring The Man over.
I'm the type of person who will walk out of store in a hot second, even if I really wanted to buy something and had items in my hand or cart, if I felt like I was being ignored or slighted in comparison to other customers. But I wasn't deterred by this artist. She was ignoring EVERYONE. I wasn't being treated unfairly. The artist evidently didn't like people, in general. The Man wasn't buying it though, figuratively and literally.
Second, he thought $60 was too much. I understand his point. Sure, this mama has a glue gun, can buy paint and go out to the beach and collect shells. But would I? It takes some effort and, quite frankly, I have never seen those shells before! How would I ever find that many of them? While a bit steep, I would be willing to pay that amount. But marriage is about compromise and The Man didn't like the attitude or price.
If you know where I can find those shells, let me know!
I did not lead them astray. We got to HMB and it was chilly!
Who would've thought this photo was taken in July?
Is my girl giving stink eye? Noooo, she's just squinting:)
It is really difficult to find a photo in which everyone is looking into the camera. The bigger the group, the more challenging the task!
Nanay LOVED this weather. She said it was like a different world.
We went on a Sunday and stumbled upon a Farmers' Market. There was produce, of course, but inside the harbor center, there were artists. I fell in love with this piece:
How beachy is this? I'm familiar with sand dollars but I don't think I've seen puffy shells like the ones framing the mirror. So pretty!
But The Man wasn't a huge fan. One, he didn't like that the artist never said hi to me. I had gone back several times to admire it and then to bring The Man over.
I'm the type of person who will walk out of store in a hot second, even if I really wanted to buy something and had items in my hand or cart, if I felt like I was being ignored or slighted in comparison to other customers. But I wasn't deterred by this artist. She was ignoring EVERYONE. I wasn't being treated unfairly. The artist evidently didn't like people, in general. The Man wasn't buying it though, figuratively and literally.
Second, he thought $60 was too much. I understand his point. Sure, this mama has a glue gun, can buy paint and go out to the beach and collect shells. But would I? It takes some effort and, quite frankly, I have never seen those shells before! How would I ever find that many of them? While a bit steep, I would be willing to pay that amount. But marriage is about compromise and The Man didn't like the attitude or price.
If you know where I can find those shells, let me know!
Saturday, July 28, 2012
A little of my old routine ... with a twist
Prebaby, The Man and I would have leisurely weekends. Only we didn't know they were leisurely or somewhat luxurious until we didn't have them anymore.
I've said it before ... Your time is no longer yours once you have a child. Neither is your money if I'm being completely honest. Which I am.
But it's a trade off. I know 20 years down the road, I'll miss this family time and being the center of my daughter's world. So I enjoy the moment and don't wish for something I don't have. I mean, I can miss it but also be OK with it not being available anymore instead of being resentful.
But something new and fun is that The Bun is able to accompany me on more outings and is easily amused by things like people watching. Something I love to do too:) We go on more dates and I get to see things through her eyes.
I love cafes and eating breakfast. The Bun has acquired these same likes!
Prebaby, I could get a mani/pedi whenever I wanted. As a mama, not only have funds become a little more scarce but free time is also a thing of the past. Weekends are family time and not so much for pampering. Again, simply a worthwhile trade off.
Recently, The Bun has proven to be on her best behavior when I have appointments. Things around us are interesting enough for her to stay amused. Like chiropractor appointments. And pedicures! Oh, how I've missed both of those.
I don't get manicures anymore because I need to literally be hands on with my daughter so a manicure would get mussed in no time. But I can get a pedicure. Yay!
I am so impressed and grateful for The Bun's easy going attitude and good manners. She just sat patiently while I got adjusted at the chiropractor. And then, after brunch, while this Mama got her toes pampered.
I know that we can't be best friends. We have to have clear boundaries and rules so she can grow up to be a respectful and responsible individual. But I'm so happy we can enjoy each others company and similar things. It's so much fun to HAVE so much fun with her. If that makes any sense;)
I'll leave you with this last photo. For the past two years, I was a day-of-event volunteer for Relay for Life. This year, I decided to be a participant and raise money. I also decided to bring The Bun. She had a blast! And it was great to honor my mom, her Nana, since she is a breast cancer survivor.
Here is a photo from Relay:
I feel blessed to have all these little yet wondrous Mama/Daughter moments.
I love my little family so much.
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I've said it before ... Your time is no longer yours once you have a child. Neither is your money if I'm being completely honest. Which I am.
But it's a trade off. I know 20 years down the road, I'll miss this family time and being the center of my daughter's world. So I enjoy the moment and don't wish for something I don't have. I mean, I can miss it but also be OK with it not being available anymore instead of being resentful.
But something new and fun is that The Bun is able to accompany me on more outings and is easily amused by things like people watching. Something I love to do too:) We go on more dates and I get to see things through her eyes.
I love cafes and eating breakfast. The Bun has acquired these same likes!
Prebaby, I could get a mani/pedi whenever I wanted. As a mama, not only have funds become a little more scarce but free time is also a thing of the past. Weekends are family time and not so much for pampering. Again, simply a worthwhile trade off.
Recently, The Bun has proven to be on her best behavior when I have appointments. Things around us are interesting enough for her to stay amused. Like chiropractor appointments. And pedicures! Oh, how I've missed both of those.
I don't get manicures anymore because I need to literally be hands on with my daughter so a manicure would get mussed in no time. But I can get a pedicure. Yay!
I am so impressed and grateful for The Bun's easy going attitude and good manners. She just sat patiently while I got adjusted at the chiropractor. And then, after brunch, while this Mama got her toes pampered.
I know that we can't be best friends. We have to have clear boundaries and rules so she can grow up to be a respectful and responsible individual. But I'm so happy we can enjoy each others company and similar things. It's so much fun to HAVE so much fun with her. If that makes any sense;)
I'll leave you with this last photo. For the past two years, I was a day-of-event volunteer for Relay for Life. This year, I decided to be a participant and raise money. I also decided to bring The Bun. She had a blast! And it was great to honor my mom, her Nana, since she is a breast cancer survivor.
Here is a photo from Relay:
I feel blessed to have all these little yet wondrous Mama/Daughter moments.
I love my little family so much.
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Tuesday, July 24, 2012
Mini Staycation Part III
Wine tasting was actually part I. Trip to the city was part II. Yesterday, we decided to explore the northern part of the East Bay.
I found this cool free event at Dimond Park in Oakland: Circus Bella.
Oh my gosh, so much fun! I was really impressed by the quality of this event. I always go with an open mind, especially to free events because, well, they're free. It's not fair to expect the moon and the stars when you're not paying, right? I thought, at the very least, we could get some sunshine and warmth (as opposed to our fun yet freezing trip to the city).
The Man and I bought non-healthy treats at the market in the morning (shame shame, Mama & Daddy!), packed three blankets and The Bun's tricycle. We picked up Sister & the boys (my nephew and my Sister's nephew) and met up with our cousin and his son. We trekked over to Dimond Park in Oakland which had to be one of the cutest little parks I've seen in a while.
It was a little tricky finding the actual location of Circus Bella because you can't see where they are from the parking lot. Luckily I found a person in the rec center who said it was near the tennis courts.
Side note: As cute and wholesome as this park was, the bathrooms left a lot to be desired. It was my first time (seriously - ever!) to use a restroom with no doors. Look, I get park and rec bathrooms. I can understand steel bowls with no lids, I can even understand no toilet seat protectors. Maybe even no toilet paper (although you have to have one or the other. It's not pleasant but you can use toilet seat protectors as paper and vice versa). But no stall doors? Yes, that's right. You knew if the stall was occupied because you could have a full view of the person using it. Thank goodness I only had to do the liquid business! Heaven help you if you were trying to do something else!
Anyway ...
Circus Bella was so good! It was a one ring circus with top notch performers. While the view is easily obstructed if you have folks taller than you sitting in front of you (which we did) but hey, it's free! I loved it. It felt like we were at some small town event. Everyone seem to have a little picnic going on and kids were excited for the circus to start.
Love, love, love.
Afterwards, we decided to go to locally famous Fentons Creamery in Piedmont. Well, what do you know? Fentons was celebrating its 118th birthday with face painting, animals to pet and just a fun little part. How lucky were we?
We filled ourselves up on ice cream and walked around Piedmont Avenue. While cute, not too much to capture three boys' attention. Cousin and his son wanted to go bowling so we decided to join them. The boys played three games and we partook in the unhealthy treats of a bowling alley. Collectively, we had nachos, cheesy fries, mozzarella sticks, a corn dog, and a burger. Oh boy! What a gluttonous day. I've got to do some sort of cleanse after this!
By the end of the day, we had exhausted but happy kids. And parents!
I treasure these moments. It's so easy to get caught up in chores, work, going to this or that. It's so nice to spend a wholesome, albeit junk food laden, day with family.
I found this cool free event at Dimond Park in Oakland: Circus Bella.
Oh my gosh, so much fun! I was really impressed by the quality of this event. I always go with an open mind, especially to free events because, well, they're free. It's not fair to expect the moon and the stars when you're not paying, right? I thought, at the very least, we could get some sunshine and warmth (as opposed to our fun yet freezing trip to the city).
The Man and I bought non-healthy treats at the market in the morning (shame shame, Mama & Daddy!), packed three blankets and The Bun's tricycle. We picked up Sister & the boys (my nephew and my Sister's nephew) and met up with our cousin and his son. We trekked over to Dimond Park in Oakland which had to be one of the cutest little parks I've seen in a while.
It was a little tricky finding the actual location of Circus Bella because you can't see where they are from the parking lot. Luckily I found a person in the rec center who said it was near the tennis courts.
Side note: As cute and wholesome as this park was, the bathrooms left a lot to be desired. It was my first time (seriously - ever!) to use a restroom with no doors. Look, I get park and rec bathrooms. I can understand steel bowls with no lids, I can even understand no toilet seat protectors. Maybe even no toilet paper (although you have to have one or the other. It's not pleasant but you can use toilet seat protectors as paper and vice versa). But no stall doors? Yes, that's right. You knew if the stall was occupied because you could have a full view of the person using it. Thank goodness I only had to do the liquid business! Heaven help you if you were trying to do something else!
Anyway ...
Circus Bella was so good! It was a one ring circus with top notch performers. While the view is easily obstructed if you have folks taller than you sitting in front of you (which we did) but hey, it's free! I loved it. It felt like we were at some small town event. Everyone seem to have a little picnic going on and kids were excited for the circus to start.
Love, love, love.
Afterwards, we decided to go to locally famous Fentons Creamery in Piedmont. Well, what do you know? Fentons was celebrating its 118th birthday with face painting, animals to pet and just a fun little part. How lucky were we?
We filled ourselves up on ice cream and walked around Piedmont Avenue. While cute, not too much to capture three boys' attention. Cousin and his son wanted to go bowling so we decided to join them. The boys played three games and we partook in the unhealthy treats of a bowling alley. Collectively, we had nachos, cheesy fries, mozzarella sticks, a corn dog, and a burger. Oh boy! What a gluttonous day. I've got to do some sort of cleanse after this!
I treasure these moments. It's so easy to get caught up in chores, work, going to this or that. It's so nice to spend a wholesome, albeit junk food laden, day with family.
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